Worldwide Coaching Magazine, March 2013

Current issue.

The Worldwide Coaching Magazine:

March 2013:

Coaching Is Not Therapy, Counseling, Mentoring or Training.

So, what is the difference?

Coaching Is Not Just for High School Athletes.

Young people now more than ever will need to develop self-leadership skills.

When It Comes To Coaching, Are You As Creative As You Can Be?

Building a Creative Coach’s tool kit can been very rewarding.

The Creative Coach’s Corner.

Unleashing Creativity One Word at a Time.

Investing In Your Self Through Coaching

Bonnie wonders if she’s ever done anything she really loved. So, she gets a coach!

Overcoming an Adaptive Challenge  

Successful CEOs know that, to keep their companies growing,

competence must be accompanied by a new consciousness.



Ethical Twitter Marketing Strategies? Here’s the Book That Shows How.

I’m writing today to let you know about a brand new book written by my friend Lynn Serafinn. The book is called Tweep-e-licious! 158 Twitter Tips & Strategies for Writers, Social Entrepreneurs & Changemakers Who Want to Market Their Business Ethically.


I’ve read Tweep-e-licious! and I have to say that this one is a keeper.

Unlike any other book on social media you may have read, Tweep-e-licious!, successfully marries practical ‘how to’ Twitter skills with a deep understanding of ethics, communication and human relationships.

At nearly 300 pages long, this is NOT a collection of ‘quick tips’, but a comprehensive manual of ethical marketing strategies that can help you build a motivated online network and create effective marketing campaigns for your book, business or social cause.

If you’ve tried Twitter but you never quite ‘got’ it, Tweep-e-licious! will help you overcome your Twitterphobia; create an effective profile; create a strong business platform; understand Twitter lingo; find and connect with your ideal audience; leverage the power of Twitter lists; create and use hashtags; and much more.

AND, if you already love Twitter but would like to take it to the max, you will find a wealth of information on: creating compelling content; building strong Twitter relationships; creating collaborative marketing campaigns; monetising strategies (and mistakes!); automation tools; Twitter contests; crowd funding campaigns; personal sustainability; RSS, expansion and influence; and MUCH more.


is available on Amazon
in both Kindle and paperback.
Click Here to buy it

 The book and Kindle are also available on ALL other Amazon sites throughout the world.


Author Lynn Serafinn is a worldwide leader in the field of ethical marketing. Her 2011 book The 7 Graces of Marketing — How to Heal Humanity and the Planet by Changing the Way We Sell was a #1 bestseller in ethics and marketing. She was recently named one of the Top 100 marketing authors on Twitter by Social Media Magazine and was selected as a finalist for the prestigious Brit Writers Awards. As a marketing consultant, she has produced a long list of bestselling non-fiction authors. She is also the Founder of the 7 Graces Project, who are developing training programmes on the theory and practice of ethical marketing strategies.

Tweep-e-licious! is guided by the cutting-edge marketing paradigm Lynn first introduced in her The 7 Graces of Marketing. Because of this, it will give you a deeper understanding of the unique world of online communications, relationships and human motivation so you can create high-quality, engaging content that creates the inviting kind of impact you — as an ethical entrepreneur — want to make.


 When you buy the book, there’s a “secret” web link where you can download a FREE Twitter Resource Pack, including:

  • A 90-minute MP3 of Lynn’s Tweep-e-licious audio class,
  • A fully hyperlinked list and commentary of over 100 useful Twitter resources.
  • PLUS, if you buy the book and register for your resource pack before the end of January, your name will be entered into a prize draw for a private 90-minute Twitter marketing session with Lynn.

I do hope you’ll check it out. Again, to get your copy of the book (and the bonus gifts) go to: Ethical Twitter Marketing Strategies? Here’s the Book That Shows How.


Interview with Morgana Rae, author of Financial Alchemy.

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 1 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Morgana Rae whose book Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation launches on Amazon on Wednesday January 23, 2013.

Morgana RaeMorgana Rae is an internationally acclaimed life coach, speaker and author of Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation. Widely regarded to be the world’s top Relationship with Money Coach, she has been featured on ABC-TV, PBS, NPR, FOX News Radio, United Press International and The Wall Street Journal online, and is frequently a featured expert on programs with Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, John Gray, John Assaraf and T Harv Eker. Named one of 2012’s Top Women in E-commerce by WE Magazine, Morgana has guided thousands of entrepreneurs, artists, healers and humanitarians to thrive in their purpose, attract more than they chase, and make things happen with ease, flow and synchronicity.

MR BookIn her book, Financial Alchemy, Morgana walks you through her time-tested program to turn your personal Money Monster of scarcity into a Money Honey of abundance. The book is a self-guided system to help you uncover your limiting blocks to abundance, and transform your relationship with money using a SUCCESS FORMULA that keeps you on track and positively “magnetic”.

Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Morgana when I got to ask her some questions on attracting high-end clients plus other tips for coaches. I hope you enjoy it.


Ton de Graaf:  What’s the best way for coaches to attract high-end clients?

Morgana Rae: That’s a great question and what I would ask back is what is your “why” for wanting to attract high-end clients?

Is this the group of people you care about most? Can help the most? Understand most?

The reason that I’m asking these questions is because if your desire to attract high-end clients is coming out of any kind of fear or desperation, if your “why” is because nobody else will pay you what you need or want… your efforts at attraction aren’t going to work.

Your client will know if you’re coming from a place of serving your own needs or if you’re going to serve their needs.  Until you can solve a problem for that client – a problem that is more pressing and more painful than paying you whatever you charge – you’re not going to attract that client.

So, number 1: go to the value that you provide. The place to begin is first getting really, really clean about offering more value, value that is worth much, much more than anything that you’re charging. Really know the value of what you offer. Know exactly the pain that you have a solution for, for exactly the kind of person who needs you and will benefit from you. If that person with the problem you solve happens to be high-end, then you will attract high-end clients. In my experience it really doesn’t matter if a client has a lot of money or not.  If you have a solution that is compelling and unique and effective, and your message speaks to somebody individually and personally, and they need your solution, they will find a way to hire you.

If clients are not hiring you, it’s because they don’t see a compelling benefit from you, or they don’t believe in themselves enough to believe that the solution is possible for them.

So to attract high-end clients you do exactly the same thing that you would do for any kind of client:  you get really clear and specific on how you help a person, a real person with real problems, and you learn how to communicate with that person in a way that makes them really, really want to work with you and willing to do whatever it takes.

I’ve coached people on every extreme, the people who have virtually no money to the people who have hundreds of millions of dollars and more.  The people with hundreds of millions of dollars and more are no more satisfying as clients.  It’s really the human being, not their net worth that makes them a great client.  But it doesn’t matter, they will have the same concerns, the same resistance to hiring you, the “I can’t afford it” may not be their excuse, but if they don’t have that one they’ll have another one, if they don’t really want what you’re offering and don’t believe in what you’re offering.

So you need to get really, really clear on your value and who you help.  And if you have a problem that really appeals to high-end clients then you will attract them.

One last tip: It’s a bonus. It’s purely practical. Take a look at your language.  If your marketing and communication is all about getting out of poverty and getting out of financial scarcity, then you’re going to attract people who are in poverty and scarcity, and you’re not going to attract those so called high-end clients.

But really, take a look at your “why” and take a look at the human being. More than anything else really, know your value and always give more value than the dollar amount that you charge even if you’re charging $100,000 a year.

Ton de Graaf:  Coaches are often people who find it hard to ‘sell’ themselves (maybe a bit introverted?). What advice can you offer them in terms of making the case for coaching?

Morgana Rae:  Well, I’m an introvert and if I had to make cold calls, or warm calls, or even hot calls… I would be out of business!  I don’t like to sell, so my first piece of advice is find the activity that feels best to you, and really apply yourself to that strategy.

For instance, I have a friend who gets a new client EVERY time she goes out for coffee with somebody.  It doesn’t work that way for me.  I had to find a different approach.

Because I hate phone calls, suck at lunches, and I’m even worse with follow up, I focus on communicating with my on-line newsletter I’ve got this email list of almost 13,000 people that I stay in touch with every week, just giving stuff away.

Here’s a big distinction that will be life or death to your business:

You’re not selling coaching. You’re not even selling yourself. You’re selling an idea. You’re selling your belief in what’s possible for a person. And now, more than ever, you’re selling a solution to a problem you care about.

I’m selling my belief in another person.  I take myself out of the equation, and I really strongly recommend that you do too, because it just feels icky.

I’m really, really good at selling my belief in what is possible for human beings, selling my message and that’s all coaching is.  So let’s just name the lie right now.

Coaches are the best salespeople in the world, that’s all we do!  All we do is sell our belief to our clients so that they can move forward.

It’s a matter of priorities.  My belief and my desire for what is possible for my client has got to be a lot bigger than my self-consciousness and my desire to play small and hide, and it also has to be bigger than my need to be hired.

In fact, I’m totally cool when I don’t think somebody’s a good fit. In fact, I’m relieved. I would so much rather refer somebody to another coach who’s a better fit, than to struggle with a client who’s not going to be happy with me.  There’s nothing wrong with that.

So there are a few tips here: 

  1. Don’t sell yourself.
  2. Sell your message and your solution.
  3. Don’t be attached to being hired.  I know that that’s harder when you have no clients. You just have to get really, really cool with ONLY serving the people you will serve best.
  4. Do not sell coaching.  Let Oprah sell coaching. Let your coaching school sell coaching.
  5. Sell your client’s dream.
  6. Sell your message for humanity.
  7. Sell your specific solution for that individual, and leave coaching out of it.

This is the biggest mistake of coaches and reiki practitioners and massage therapists and hypnotherapists and every service professional…  We start to sell our “widget,” our vehicle, instead of the destination.

People don’t care about the vehicle.  If they could get the solution in a pill, they would.  Wouldn’t you?  Don’t confuse the destination–where they want to go–with the vehicle that gets them there.  Leave the vehicle out of it.  Nobody cares!

When you push what someone does care about, you feel pushy, desperate, and salesy. Ick ick ick!

Just focus on the destination. It’s not you. It’s not coaching.  It is the clients dream.  If you are uniquely qualified to help them get what they really, really want; then there’s really no selling involved, is there?

Ton de Graaf:  The fee structure of coaches might change over time when they gain experience and skills. How can you raise your fee with existing clients without getting frowned upon?

Morgana Rae: Well, there are two different kinds of clients.  There are your individual one-on-one clients, and your group clients.

If you really, really love coaching an existing client, I wouldn’t necessarily raise their fee. You can discuss it, you can raise it incrementally so it’s not painful–like add $15, or something–but I personally don’t raise my rates on my existing private clients. I have one client who’s been with me about seven years and she pays much, much less than my new clients do. That’s the reward for being an early responder, and not putting off hiring me and staying with me all of this time.

I find it easier to raise my rates for NEW incoming clients, so anybody who’s putting off hiring me is going to pay so MUCH more next year than if they hire me this year!  And that works just fine for me.

Then there’s another kind of client: they’re the group coaching clients.  Typically with group coaching, I offer a specific program. Maybe a three-month program, or a year-long program, or a weekend intensive. That way, when one group ends, I can re-examine my price structure before I offer the program again. It may not fit my business model anymore, or who I’ve become.

Because each year we grow, we’re not the same coach. And the more you invest in yourself, the more other people want to invest in you. For instance I invest over $100,000 every year on coaches and classes to just keep learning new stuff that I can give to my own clients. Think of the confidence investment gives you. Investment becomes your “normal,” and it affects the way you and your clients interact when discussing fees.

My friend Ali Brown’s Mastermind Group went from, I think $20,000 or $24,000 one year, to $100,000 the next year.  Some people continued, or she just got a whole new type of client base at the higher rate and let go of the people from the year before.

You have to go in and find what is in integrity for you, and what feels best for you, Undercharging feels bad. It feels like self-betrayal. It feels out of integrity. It feels like lying. Have the courage to put your integrity first, and your fear of being frowned on last. Because I promise you: you will be frowned on by somebody, I guarantee it. And you have to learn to be okay with that.


I hope you enjoyed this interview with Morgana Rae and that you’ll check out her book Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation at

Money, Love and Magic

Here’s why:

Money, Love & Magic Telesummit!

11 Money, Love & Magic Mentors Share Their Wisdom on this FR*EE 3-Day Online Event January 15th, 16th & 17th, 2013 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/8pm UK 

Book your place FREE at 

Over the course of 3 days, Morgana and her guests will be exploring how unlock your magical powers of manifestation to attract money effortlessly by putting LOVE first.

Here’s Morgana’s wonderful guest line-up:

  • Morgana Rae – Coach, speaker, author of Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation
  • Lynn Serafinn – Coach; marketer; author of The 7 Graces of Marketing
  • Bob Doyle – Author; CEO of Boundless Living, Inc.; Teacher in The Secret
  • Chris Howard – Author; philanthropist; founder/CEO Academy of Wealth & Achievement; CEO of Million Dollar Mastermind
  • Noah St. John –  Author; trainer; creator Inner Game of Success; media personality
  • Mali Apple & Joe Dunn – Relationship coaches; authors; founders of Soulmate Experience
  • Cynthia Kersey – Author; speaker; founder non-profit UNSTOPPABLE Foundation
  • Jeffrey Van Dyk –Conscious business movement leader; found Expansion Lab
  • Debra Poneman – Law of Attraction leader; Founder Yes to Success Seminars
  • Debbie Bermont – Author; business growth strategist; transformation agent

This special 3-Day telesummit is Morgana’s FR*EE gift to you

to celebrate the launch of her book, Financial Alchemy

coming out on Wednesday January 23, 2013.


When you buy Morgana’s book on Wednesday January 23, 2013, Morgana would like to give you the MP3 downloads of the Money, Love & Magic telesummit.


You’ll also receive a complete library of beautiful personal development gifts from authors, speakers, coaches and other enlightened professionals from around the globe including one from me:

Building Stress Tolerance 

To claim your FREE pass to the Money, Love & Magic Telesummit!

and read about the free gifts, go to:

Thanks for reading! As usual, please feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

AND… be sure to follow Morgana tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Lisa Dorey, who will be interviewing Morgana on the subject of money and Morgana’s process of Alchemy in her work. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to either or

Entrepreneurs to Lead the Way to a More Ethical Business Future

7 Graces Global ConferenceThe term ‘Corporate Social Responsibility’ (CSR) has been a buzz word in both the business and environmental worlds over the past few years. The message of those who speak out for CSR is simple: the time has come for businesses to move away from thinking only about short-term profits and look at the bigger impact their business has upon the global economy, people and the planet.

We live in a consumer culture. This means that, today more than ever, the entrepreneur has a powerful role to play in society. We all know that with great power comes great responsibility, and given all the ways business and marketing has affected the world, more and more entrepreneurs are waking up to the fact that it is time to reassess what we are doing and why, and to take responsibility for the impact our choices and actions have on the wider welfare of the world.

This cannot happen if we continue we all act in isolation. To create a tangible and positive shift in the world, we need to come together as business owners, and form a critical mass of key influencers in society. We need both to speak up and to listen to each other.

That is exactly what will be happening at the 7 Graces Global Conference (7GGC). The 3-day conference will take place on Friday June 22nd through Sunday 24th, 2012 in London, England and will also be broadcast worldwide via Interactive Live Stream.

7GGC will bring together entrepreneurs, marketers, media professionals, journalists, conscious consumers and eco-citizens from around the world, who wish to demonstrate their commitment to business ethics, corporate responsibility, social wellbeing and environmental sustainability. Together, they will become a Tipping Point for positive change. You can read about the conference, and book you place, at

The conference will also be offered via Interactive Live Stream, accessible from anywhere in the world with Internet access, where you can share your opinions, questions and innovations with London delegates.

The event will feature 9 dynamic guest presenters including Keynote speaker RACHEL ELNAUGH, former ‘Dragon’ from BBC TV’s hit show DRAGONS’ DEN.

The 7 Graces Global Conference is the brainchild of my good friend, LYNN SERAFINN, a marketer and author of number-1 bestseller The 7 Graces of Marketing: how to heal humanity and the planet by changing the way we sell.

Lynn says, ‘We won’t be “selling” anything at this conference except our commitment to humanity and the planet. The primary question we’ll be addressing throughout the three days will be “How can we heal humanity and the planet by changing the way we sell?”‘

I am proud to be supporting 7GGC by helping spread the word about this important event, and I encourage you to attend either the London conference, or via Interactive Live Stream. And, as one of my valued readers, you can also get a special 10% discount when you register:

Register for the 7 Graces Global Conference

either in London or via Live Stream at

Then, enter the coupon code: 7ggc-special-10

I hope to see you at 7GGC on June 22nd-24th.

7 Graces Global Conference

The 7 Graces of Marketing Global Conference

Let the diaologue begin!

The 7 Graces Global Conference is coming to London and via worldwide live stream on 22nd, 23rd and 24th June 2012. To read the complete agenda for this 3-day event, and register for either the London conference or live stream/virtual breakout sessions, CLICK HERE.

The 7 Graces Global Conference (7GGC) is neither a ‘trade show’ nor a training event. It is a meeting of minds where business owners, large and small, along with a conscious consumers and members of volunteer groups will gather together to create a vision for the future of business, marketing and commerce. Positive change can only come about via three elements, the foundation of which we aim to create through this event:

  • Awareness raising/education
  • Community and mutual support
  • Creating a ‘tipping point’ of key influencers who embraces this awareness and put it into practice in their own work and daily lives.

We invite you to become a part of this “Tipping Point”

Who should attend…

  • Business owners from corporate executives to sole proprietors, who know that our current models of marketing and business are not serving society or our environment. Perhaps you have great ideas of your own to share, or perhaps you are looking for ideas. Or perhaps you are seeking collaborative opportunities with other ethical business owners.
  • Aspiring business owners, who might feel overwhelmed when faced with the coldness and disconnection of modern marketing and business networking.
  • Marketing professionals, who feel alienated and upset by the use of persuasion, invasion, deception and scarcity in so much of marketing today, but often feel like a lone voice against it within the industry.
  • Journalists, media professionals and creative artists, who are tired of having their artistic and professional integrity dictated or compromised by advertisers.
  • Members of non-profit and volunteer groups, whose focus is upon awareness raising around environmentalism, ecology, alternative energy, alternative economies, social responsibility, human rights, etc.
  • Conscious consumers, who want to help create a better world for their children, but feel alone against the rest of the status quo.

Find out how you can attend from anyplace in the world by visiting the 7 Graces Global Conference (7GGC)